All women are beautifully made, regardless if they are stick thin or not.
The recent feature of “Large and loving it” on Life! Of Straits Times is indeed a re-affirmation to many women who are larger than those glamorous models whose 36-24-36 body measurements are considered as ideal.
Brooke Elliot’s comments reflect many women’s unspoken thoughts, “We are constantly told we’re not good enough, or smart enough, or pretty enough, …”. Women in this society feel constantly pressurized to slap on the latest featured cream to look younger, practice self-governance on diet and exercise. Still, when many look into the mirror, they are not satisfied.
Learning to accept oneself is paramount to building self-confidence. If we are constantly hoping that we’ll look better, get slimmer, appear younger, life is like an illusion. We live in a bubble everyday.
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick” – Proverbs
Brooke Elliot also paid tribute to her parents for the reassurance that she was great and gave her a great sense of worth just the way she was.
The green house effect shields plants from the direct harsh sunlight so that plants may grow. In the same way, establishing a green house effect in the home, office and school helps create an atmosphere of self-acceptance and growth. This shifts the thought life and creates a culture of self-worth and confidence.
In my next blog, I will provide practical tips on how large women can dress to look and feel great!
Here’s a quick reference to the article from Straits Times.
Large and Loving It (Straits Times, Life! Section 17 September 2012)
http://www.straitstimes.com/archive/monday/premium/life/story/large-and-loving-it-20120917
As a child, American actress Brooke Elliott has always looked up to veteran singer-actress Barbra Streisand.
Speaking over the telephone from Tennessee, where she was visiting family, the star of hit TV drama Drop Dead Diva tells Life!: “Growing up, I thought I was going to be Barbra Streisand. She was a big influence and I always thought I’ll just grow up to be her. She is just an incredible inspiration.”
Streisand, 70, whose credits include the movie Funny Girl (1968) and hit songs The Way We Were and Evergreen, is a source of inspiration for many as she not only has an impressive career, but is also always seen as elegant, poised and strong.
Though Elliott, 37, has not quite reached superstardom status like Streisand, she has regardless become very much like her in another way – becoming a source of inspiration for many others in her own right.
As the lead of Drop Dead Diva, whose fourth and latest season airs on Sony Entertainment Television (mioTV Channel 20) every Tuesday night, the actress plays vapid model Deb, who dies and then returns to life in the body of Jane, a physically larger but intelligent attorney.
As the show progresses, her character comes to terms with her new look and even embraces it with confidence. Elliott is proud of the fact that the role is unlike typical TV lead characters who are stick-thin and forever glamorous.
She says: “I feel like women are up against such a tough thing sometimes. We’re constantly told we’re not good enough, or smart enough, or pretty enough, and because women receive so much pressure, it makes me want to fight for their right to be who they are, even more.
“So what I love about playing this role is that I can finally be a part of a message that is sending positivity – to tell women that they are great and wonderful and to be happy with their lives.”
Since the show began in 2009, it has been praised by viewers for delivering positive body image messages, with The Baltimore Sun writing that the series is “an enlightened exploration of body and self-image”.
Now with the show in its fourth season, Elliott promises that her two-in-one role of Jane is going to have more fun as the man that she has been holding a torch for in the last few seasons will finally notice her.
“It’s the first time we will see Grayson pining after Jane, which is fun because we spent three seasons watching Jane pining after him. It’s even more fun that Jane does not notice it at all because she is now in a relationship with Owen.”
The character of Grayson is played by Jackson Hurst and Owen by Lex Medlin.
Despite Elliott’s confidence in herself now, the actress admits to having suffered bouts of self-doubt before.
“I don’t think you can be a woman in this society without feeling some pressure. I don’t think any of us escape the magazines and from being told what we’re supposed to look like.
“But I guess I tribute a lot to my parents because they gave me a great sense of worth and that I’m great the way I am.”
The native of the Minnesota city of Fridley is the daughter of a homemaker mother and a city manager father.
The pressure to forever look good as a woman, it seems, has prompted her to want to try to see the world as a man, if she were ever given the chance to live life in another person’s body like how her character does on the show.
Elliott, who is single, says with a chuckle: “If I could be in any other person’s body, I would choose to be in a man’s body. I would want to know what they feel and what they see, what they’re attracted to and how they’re pressured by society to look or be a certain way.”
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